POISON THAT KILLS MEN.

Once upon a time a beautiful girl got tired of her marriage life and wanted to murder her spouse. 

One morning she ran to her mother and say to her " mother, I am tired of my husband I can no longer support his nonsense. I want to kill him but I am afraid Law of the land  will hold me responsible, can you please help me mother?"

The mother answered:

- Yes my daughter I can help you, but,  there is  a little task attached. 

The daughter asked "what task? I am willing and ready to assume any task attached in order to get him out" 

OK, said the mother,

1..You will have to make peace with him, so that no one will suspect you when he is dead.

2.. You will have to beautify yourself in order  to look young and attractive to him

3.. You have to take good care of him and be very nice and appreciative to him

4.. You have to be patient, loving and less jealous, have more listening ears, be more respectful and obedient 

5. Spend your money for him and don’t get angry even when he rto give you money for whatever 

6. Don’t raise your voice against but encourage Peace and love so that you will never be suspected when he must have died.

Can you do all of that? 

Asked the mother.

Yes i can. She replied

OK, said the mother.

Take this powder and pour a bit in his every day meal, it will slowly kill him.

After 30 days the lady came back to her mother and said.

Mother, I have no intention of killing my husband again. As of now I have grown to love him because he has completely changed, he is now a very sweet husband than I ever imagined. 

What can i do to stop the poison from killing him? 

Please help me mother.

She pleaded in a sorrowful tone.

The mother answered;

Do not worry my daughter. What I gave you the other day was just Tumeric Powder. It will never kill him. 

In reality, you were the poison that was slowly killing your husband with tension and dispassion.

It was  when you started loving, honouring and cherishing him that you saw him change to a nice and sweet husband.

Men are not really wicked, but our way of relating with them determines their responses and feelings towards us.

Women if you can only show respect, dedication, love, care and commitment to your husband he will 100% be there for you.

Ladies, this is a good lessons for you, if only you can use it.

ARE WOMEN TROUBLESOME?

Women are peace loving and will want to do all to keep a happy home, but when men see women as attachments who should not have a say, that is when issues stir up in the family.  

It is good to always find a way of bringing your wife into your equations, this does not mean her suggestions is what you must take but give her a listening ear. And clarify why you are taking a decision different from hers on some issues. Off course you will also put your idea on the table as you seek hers too.

If she does not want a go ahead still, or you do not want a go ahead of her own intentions after sharing with you. It is better to halt that thing until you both agree on the way to go. 

This will go a long way in reducing frictions in your relationship.

(c) Ebun Olanipekun

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COPING WITH FINANCIAL ABUSE OR FINANCIAL INFIDELITY IN A RELATIONSHIP

Financial Abuse

Financial infidelity

If your money relationship is in shamble and needs help. If your spouse is not sharing the necessary financial stimulus with you, it is very likely that this is one symptom of a troubled marriage. Not sharing financial stimulus with one’s spouse could either be a Financial Abuse or Financial infidelity.

When one spouse is financially controlling (i.e. personally seizes or restricting the other spouse access to cash, resources, and family finances), it is called financial abuse.

It is another way of exerting power and dominance on the other spouse. This has a destructive impact on the marriage.

On the other hand financial infidelity is the point at which one spouse misleads the other about debts obligations, keeping money in a secret account and in any case covers up or lies about cash. Not minding there can still be a sharing of money, assets, and financial decisions.

While financial abuse and financial infidelity can be linked, they are two separate practices. Many relationships can endure financial infidelity; most can't survive financial abuse.

In most relationships, spouses have income disparity, but it does not mean that an individual should have control over the money. If you’re committed to a relationship, you and your spouse owe each other a calm, honest and legitimate conversation about each other’s finances, habits, goals, and anxieties. Money is a very emotional topic for people.

Suggested Solution

If your spouse refuses to work with you on money, you can break the cycle of the abuse. Like any other abuse situation, you need to first understand that it is a problem and need to get help.

·      Read about the cycle of violence and how to end it.

·      Work out setting boundaries and what a marital partnership should be.

·    Educate yourself on the finance of your spouse. If possible, reviewing income and asset   information.

·      Involve a counsellor.

Ⓒ Ebun Olanipekun

LIVING IN HARMONY WITH YOUR PARTNER

Living in harmony is made possible by the reciprocal efforts of the parties involved in any relationship.

Ⓒ Ebun Olanipekun